Comments on: News from the Homefront http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/ Sun, 07 Sep 2008 07:28:07 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Jessica http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/#comment-1926 Jessica Mon, 21 Jan 2008 22:02:09 +0000 http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/#comment-1926 Wow, that's a big one. Fingers crossed it all works out and that Mr. Hot doesn't have the downward tumble of disapointment. <em>Jessica's last blog post..<a href='http://notesfromthegardenspot.blogspot.com/2008/01/my-monday.html' rel="nofollow">My Monday</a></em> Wow, that’s a big one. Fingers crossed it all works out and that Mr. Hot doesn’t have the downward tumble of disapointment.

Jessica’s last blog post..My Monday

]]> By: Candy http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/#comment-1925 Candy Mon, 21 Jan 2008 21:07:23 +0000 http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/#comment-1925 "I know that Mr. Hot grieves because of it; the guilt he feels has always blanketed our marriage with a tinge of sadness." God, Ree, I know exactly what you mean. My husband lives with this every day. His relationships with his children is ok...not great, but ok. My relationship with them after being married to their father is relatively non-existent. They tolerate me. It's a difficult row to hoe. <em>Candy's last blog post..<a href='http://imnopoodle.wordpress.com/2008/01/21/the-crazy/' rel="nofollow">The Crazy</a></em> “I know that Mr. Hot grieves because of it; the guilt he feels has always blanketed our marriage with a tinge of sadness.”

God, Ree, I know exactly what you mean. My husband lives with this every day. His relationships with his children is ok…not great, but ok. My relationship with them after being married to their father is relatively non-existent. They tolerate me. It’s a difficult row to hoe.

Candy’s last blog post..The Crazy

]]> By: Madmad http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/#comment-1922 Madmad Mon, 21 Jan 2008 19:28:40 +0000 http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/#comment-1922 I hope it all works out... (And wow - those were some great stories! Aren't kids, um... fun?... sometimes?) I hope it all works out… (And wow - those were some great stories! Aren’t kids, um… fun?… sometimes?)

]]> By: Mary http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/#comment-1921 Mary Mon, 21 Jan 2008 18:32:07 +0000 http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/#comment-1921 You're doing absolutely the right thing, of course. My husband and I are both products of big messy (in a good way) complicated families of steps and sibs: he has 9 stepsiblings, I have the more modest 2. My father left his family when I was five, and couldn't get beyond his guilt to reach out to my sister and brother and me. It took ME (when in college) to find him (hadn't seen him in years) and establish a relationship. He had another family by then, married to a woman who already had two children who were just a bit younger than his. My father and I had a very loving and careful relationship. It didn't come easily or naturally. But he became one of my favorite people in the world. My brother and sister were offered numerous chances to meet him; they turned those down. I urged him to call them every week: he had all the numbers and emails. "NExt week!" he'd say. He was too afraid. He died of a heart attack, out of the blue, 11 years ago. He never picked up the phone to call his other two children. They never tried to meet him. Do they regret that? Yup. Reaching out, in all the ways we can, is always the right thing, even when it's complicated. <em>Mary's last blog post..<a href='http://minnesotamatron.blogspot.com/2008/01/still-waiting-for-wave-four.html' rel="nofollow">Still Waiting for Wave Four</a></em> You’re doing absolutely the right thing, of course. My husband and I are both products of big messy (in a good way) complicated families of steps and sibs: he has 9 stepsiblings, I have the more modest 2.

My father left his family when I was five, and couldn’t get beyond his guilt to reach out to my sister and brother and me. It took ME (when in college) to find him (hadn’t seen him in years) and establish a relationship. He had another family by then, married to a woman who already had two children who were just a bit younger than his.

My father and I had a very loving and careful relationship. It didn’t come easily or naturally. But he became one of my favorite people in the world. My brother and sister were offered numerous chances to meet him; they turned those down. I urged him to call them every week: he had all the numbers and emails. “NExt week!” he’d say. He was too afraid.

He died of a heart attack, out of the blue, 11 years ago. He never picked up the phone to call his other two children. They never tried to meet him.

Do they regret that? Yup.

Reaching out, in all the ways we can, is always the right thing, even when it’s complicated.

Mary’s last blog post..Still Waiting for Wave Four

]]> By: pisceshanna http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/#comment-1917 pisceshanna Mon, 21 Jan 2008 16:40:53 +0000 http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/#comment-1917 Thanks for the insight into what my future may look like. It makes the whole thought of it less traumatizing, knowing that someone out there has a handle on it. Thanks for sharing your wisdom. <em>pisceshanna's last blog post..<a href='http://pisceshanna.blogspot.com/2008/01/friends.html' rel="nofollow">Friends</a></em> Thanks for the insight into what my future may look like. It makes the whole thought of it less traumatizing, knowing that someone out there has a handle on it. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

pisceshanna’s last blog post..Friends

]]> By: Shelly http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/#comment-1915 Shelly Mon, 21 Jan 2008 15:52:12 +0000 http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/#comment-1915 Sorry to be late commenting, but I will have fingers crossed for all of you! I'm so glad that it would be such a positive for all of you id 24 came to stay with you. You are very lucky to have such a good relationship with your stepson and that your son is so close to him as well. Best wishes to you all! <em>Shelly's last blog post..<a href='http://notthedaddy.blogspot.com/2008/01/pat-conroy.html' rel="nofollow">Pat Conroy</a></em> Sorry to be late commenting, but I will have fingers crossed for all of you! I’m so glad that it would be such a positive for all of you id 24 came to stay with you. You are very lucky to have such a good relationship with your stepson and that your son is so close to him as well. Best wishes to you all!

Shelly’s last blog post..Pat Conroy

]]> By: Laurel http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/#comment-1914 Laurel Mon, 21 Jan 2008 15:33:35 +0000 http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/#comment-1914 Here's hoping it works out for you and Mr. Hot... and if it doesn't, you have five months to figure out another way for Mr. Hot to reach out to his kids. The older they get and the less they're under Ex-Mrs. Hot's thumb, the easier it might be to connect as adults. (I hope!) <em>Laurel's last blog post..<a href='http://sassattack.blogspot.com/2008/01/maybe-i-need-therapeutic-lamp.html' rel="nofollow">Maybe I Need a Therapeutic Lamp</a></em> Here’s hoping it works out for you and Mr. Hot… and if it doesn’t, you have five months to figure out another way for Mr. Hot to reach out to his kids. The older they get and the less they’re under Ex-Mrs. Hot’s thumb, the easier it might be to connect as adults. (I hope!)

Laurel’s last blog post..Maybe I Need a Therapeutic Lamp

]]> By: Zhu http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/#comment-1905 Zhu Mon, 21 Jan 2008 03:43:46 +0000 http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/#comment-1905 (*hi there, just blog hopping!*) ;-) Must be so hard to be a step-mother. I guess when kids are older they can look back and realize the story was two-sided... and you can reconnect. (*hi there, just blog hopping!*) ;-)

Must be so hard to be a step-mother. I guess when kids are older they can look back and realize the story was two-sided… and you can reconnect.

]]> By: Dawn http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/#comment-1894 Dawn Sun, 20 Jan 2008 21:23:54 +0000 http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/#comment-1894 ohhhhhh..... and coming from someone who has the dad who didn't live with the dad ... Mr. Hot could score a lot of points with a monthly call/email/mail .... I'm just sayin'..... communication is a habit .... which reminds me I need to go leave my weekly message on my dad's cell phone, followed by the email saying I left the message.... none of which will happen till the baby wakes out of my lap. <em>Dawn's last blog post..<a href='http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/AlexYearOne/~3/219785618/' rel="nofollow">Weekly Winners</a></em> ohhhhhh…..

and coming from someone who has the dad who didn’t live with the dad … Mr. Hot could score a lot of points with a monthly call/email/mail …. I’m just sayin’….. communication is a habit …. which reminds me I need to go leave my weekly message on my dad’s cell phone, followed by the email saying I left the message…. none of which will happen till the baby wakes out of my lap.

Dawn’s last blog post..Weekly Winners

]]> By: Carrie http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/#comment-1891 Carrie Sun, 20 Jan 2008 20:17:09 +0000 http://hotfessional.com/2008/01/19/news-from-the-homefront/#comment-1891 OHHH! That's WONDERFUL! I hope it all really does work out!! <em>Carrie's last blog post..<a href='http://chocolatetheotherwhitemeat.blogspot.com/2008/01/ebay-sellers-beware.html' rel="nofollow">eBay Sellers beware!!!!!!!!!!!!</a></em> OHHH! That’s WONDERFUL! I hope it all really does work out!!

Carrie’s last blog post..eBay Sellers beware!!!!!!!!!!!!

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